During the last session Ms. L worked with her to make choices between her toys. Reagan fussed a little but played along. After about 3 rounds of this choice making, she decided she was done making choices and had enough. So, Ms. L told her that she could take a break and watch her favorite tv show but she would have to choose that as her activity. She showed her the dvd case (which we know she understands) and her lovey and told her to make a choice. This is when she really showed her temper. Usually when this happens, I quickly cave because who likes to see their little girl unhappy? In the past I have helped her by showing her what I need and then I turn in on, hoping that if we walk through it together enough, she would start doing it on her own.
But, Ms. L's philosophy is that Reagan has learned that she doesn't have to choose because gullible Mommy will give her what she wants in the end (tv) without working for it. We endured 25 minutes of a screaming, crying, unhappy Reagan. It was awful. Completely heartbreaking. We continuously explained to her that she just had to show us what she wanted. We let her walk away and she would always come back and just tell us how mad she is and then walk away again. In the end, she ended up making the decision and the world was a happy place again. Since then, we do this every morning and she has gotten much better about choosing. It's hard to give tough love, to do things with or for your children that don't make them happy but you know will make them a better person in the end.
Listening to Ms. L give her instructions on choosing a toy
Playing with her toy after her decision
Using great eye gaze and hand touching of the picture to let us know her choice